Marriage and all that

[sombrefan]

Been reading the top ten suitable and unwanted wedding gifts list.

Unwanted wedding gifts

Though I don't know, tea towels sounds like a good idea. Though you can't go wrong with money and champagne. Especially at the same time.

Comments

I agree about the tea towels...

[rleyser.livejournal.com]

although money and champagne...mmm..OKAY!!!

I give cool gifts!

[leoff.livejournal.com]

Every wedding I'm invited to (which are few) I go to Toys R' Us and buy about $100 worth of the classic board games. Scrabble, Monopoly, Life, Sorry!, etc. Always makes the Bride and Groom go "COOL!"

money always works

[kingofmyworld.livejournal.com]

especialy before the honeymoon

best gift we got: a scrapbook for the weding pictures (it was handmade)
worst gift I got was: place settings (dishes) for 20 people (like i'll ever have that many people at my house)

and always make sure the hot tub doesn't leak through the ceiling on the honeymoon, they'll come to let you know about it at the most unappropriate time

That's it, then.

[iidoru.livejournal.com]

I'm throwing some quarters in a glass of Baby Duck - an oversized brandy glass of champagne. And I'm wrapping it in a Flintstone's tea towel.

Can we have

[rleyser.livejournal.com]

a buffy tea towel instead?

My family has never had a problem with getting stemware.

[thecuckoo.livejournal.com]

Then again, everyone in my family shops the Waterford outlets in order to get said stemware for each other, so....

This is the one place in which I think Miss Manners is really off the mark. A registry might have been presumptous back when most of the wedding guests lived in the same town as the bride and groom and could have made educated guesses as to what the happy couple would like. Nowadays, however, people travelling halfway across the country, if not the globe, to attend weddings can't be sure that the coffeemaker that they want to give as a present isn't already in use or isn't already wrapped up by three other guests. I think that the registry can be very helpful, as long as it isn't attached to the invitation or anything.

I would like to get some of those unwanted gifts.

[vampedvixen.livejournal.com]

Especially the pewter picture frames! They'd go great in my room.

I always thought the idea of a gift registry list was incredibly tacky and vain. Guests should feel free to get a person what they want to give them. As long as it's something chosen thoughtfully and not from the 99 cents rack, then what's the problem?

the problem, you ask?

[rleyser.livejournal.com]

is that your guests may have NO idea what your taste, house, etc are like.

Suppose I like modern things, and you don't, so you buy me an antique whatever...so I return it and get what I like...you come and visit and don't see your gift, you get hurt. Now, I register, you see what I like, I keep what you buy me and viola, all are happy!

I also don't like people returning things.

[vampedvixen.livejournal.com]

Gifts are supposed to be about the idea of giving, not the monetary value of the object.

*shrugs*

returning things has nothing to do with monetary value, vixen....

[rleyser.livejournal.com]

it has to do with "where can I put this thing my mother's second cousin's sister sent me that I will never use and absolutely hate." as oppose to "where can I put this thing that I turned my mother's second cousin's sister gift into that I totally enjoy and will use for years to come."

I don't care if people bring me gifts. Their gift to me is their presence at my wedding. Especially since my relatives will be spending thousands to come to it. But I also think it is silly to not use the services available, i.e. registry, if it makes it easier for a guest to find a gift if that's what they choose to do. In fact, in my experience with weddings, and showers (baby and bridal), is the FIRST question a person is asked when they say they are engaged/preganant is "where are you registered?"